What You Don’t Want To Hear When You’re Pregnant
Pregnant women often become the center of attention and the subject of many comments that are not always pleasant. If you are pregnant, you will probably hear the following sentences. And if you’ve already had a baby, you probably heard them when you were pregnant. Do you recognize some of those phrases you don’t want to hear when you’re pregnant?
What you don’t want to hear when you’re pregnant
“It hurts a lot”
All women who have experienced pregnancy have heard amazing and very painful stories about childbirth. If you know another woman who is pregnant, don’t tell her how terrifying the pain was during childbirth.
You know it won’t be easy, but it’s important that you maintain a positive attitude in whatever way you can to prevent the stress from affecting you or the baby. Remember that all women have different experiences and for many the process is not traumatic.
“You are very small” or “You are very thin”
Comments like this can make the woman misinterpret the words and worry about the health and size of the baby. If you have a small build, it is normal that the baby bump is not very noticeable. If you go to the regular checkups, you don’t have to be afraid of anything.
“You are too big” or “You are too fat”
Women’s self-confidence during pregnancy is especially vulnerable because of all the changes they experience, so comments like this can generate a crisis in women’s self-esteem. Weight gain is the most normal thing in the world when you are pregnant. You just have to try to eat healthy food and everything will be fine.
“Was it planned?”
If you are pregnant, whether it was planned or not, it is your decision whether to continue with the pregnancy or not. It’s nobody’s business whether you planned it or it came unexpectedly. All that matters is that in a few months you will have a beautiful baby in your arms.
“Can I touch your belly?”
Many women have no problem with others touching their stomach. But some aren’t comfortable with that, so to take safest way, it’s better not to unless it’s someone you know very well.
“When I was pregnant…”
It is normal for mothers of multiple children to know many things that you may not know yourself. All pregnancy processes are different and if you need help, you can seek advice from a relative or a doctor. Don’t believe all the horror stories some people tell.
“You shouldn’t eat/drink that!”
Unless it’s really harmful to your baby, you don’t want to hear about what you can and can’t eat. If you have questions about food issues, you can review menu options for pregnant women or consult a nutritionist. Others can tell you thousands of things based on nothing.
“Are you sure they aren’t twins?”
With this phrase, all pregnant women will feel that they are overweight. Belly growth varies depending on the woman’s physical characteristics, the baby, and the diet, so there is no standard size to follow. Again, as long as you go to the routine checkups and everything is fine, don’t worry.
What you don’t want to hear
“Do you stop working when the baby is born?”
This is really a very personal topic that should only be discussed within the family. It can be taken as an infringement and it is not a topic you want to talk about with everyone. The decision whether or not to continue working is solely up to the mother and her partner.
“Sleep well, while you still can.”
Any comment with harmful or worrying intent is not helpful to hear while you are pregnant. Motherhood is a wonderful experience. Like everything in life, it comes with some sacrifices, but that shouldn’t make you see it as a tragedy. You have to enjoy the changes.
“You are too young to have children.”
Yes, there are certain socially established parameters for motherhood, but if you don’t meet these it’s no drama. Even if you don’t meet the standards, the most important thing is that you make your motherhood a wonderful phase. Enjoy it to the full, no matter how old you are.
