The Dispelling Technique For Negative Behavior

Every child (and family) is unique. Not all little ones have the same personality and not all families have the same dynamics. It is up to the parents to choose which parenting techniques and strategies are best for their families. Today we’ll talk about one discipline technique in particular: the dispelling technique for negative behavior.

The purpose of discipline and obedience is to guide children so that they learn to deal with frustration and choose behaviors that help them navigate their environment.

However, sometimes children choose manipulative behaviors that lead to problems on a personal, social, family or academic level. Children who constantly disobey, insult us or constantly challenge us.

Our role in these situations is to help them replace this conflicting attitude with other healthier and more appropriate alternatives. However, it is important to always do this in a caring and respectful manner, without the use of force and punishment. Keep in mind that children are still learning to live and interact with others.

The importance of attention

It can be difficult to realize that what we are doing is actually rewarding this negative behavior. Without a doubt, we correct or punish the child in some way. What we overlook, however, is the fact that the attention that we as parents, teachers or caregivers give to the child is one of the greatest rewards.

Adults tend to pay more attention to children’s transgressions and negative behavior. This is because we find them annoying and annoying. However, we often overlook the good behavior of our children. So little ones are starting to understand that the only way to really get our attention is by behaving badly.

How to apply the dispelling technique for negative behavior

Keys to keep in mind with the expulsion technique

• Make sure children understand the terms from the start. It is very important that you clearly explain that you expect your little ones to speak and make requests in a calm and polite manner. In fact, that you will not respond as long as they are yelling and disrespectful.
• It is fundamental to be consistent with your application of this extinction technique. If you ignore negative behavior only part of the time and pay attention to it the rest of the time, your inconsistency will only make the situation worse. You have to be determined and make sure that you always ignore unwanted behavior and reward the positive.
• While this technique is really effective, it takes time. That’s why you can’t use it with behavior that needs to stop immediately. For example, if your child puts his or her finger into an electrical outlet, you can’t ignore this. You must then take immediate action.

• Also keep in mind that the application of this technique tends to cause a temporary increase in unwanted behavior. This is normal, but it is still important to remain firm and consistent until your child understands the new system and the negative behavior eventually disappears.