You Will Always Be My Weakness, Even If You Give Me Strength

We’ve said it many times: the arrival of a child changes our lives. It makes us stronger and transforms our weakness and insecurity, it nourishes us with hope and courage.

However, there is something we have to admit; this new life we ​​hold in our arms will always be our greatest weakness.

Gabriel Garcia Marquez once said in one of his books that ” when a newborn squeezes his father’s finger for the first time with his little hand, he has captured it forever .”

This feeling is experienced by anyone who takes a step towards motherhood or fatherhood naturally or through adoption.

The emotional imprint that begins when the first glance and caress takes place is made very deep in the heart and mind.

We’ve mentioned it more than once on jebentmama  . The brain is a fascinating organ and its changes in raising children are astounding.

It becomes more alert and secretes higher levels of oxytocin, the hormone that regulates attention. It also intensifies the bonds of affection.

However, there is something profound and vulnerable that changes as we become parents. Something that temporarily confuses us and disturbs us even more, as our child grows stronger, grows older and matures.

Whatever a child does, no matter where they are, what they are committed to or the distance that separates us, he or she will always be your weakness.

You will always be a part of me, half of my heart

Whether you wore them for 9 months or not, the child grew in your heart day after day. They leave a mark on you that will last forever, a kind of emotional DNA that will always accompany you.

No one but you knows how many nights you’ve spent awake and taking care of him. Only you know what you gave up and the effort you invested in it. You love him even more than you love yourself.

Every day spent on parenting is an achievement and a triumph. Although every child has their own rhythms, you will keep those incredible milestones in your memory forever.

Their first words, first steps, first game, first day at school and the first story they read… It’s all part of your life story.

It is a legacy that will shape your internal architecture as a person. It will mold your heart moment by moment until you realize that your children will always be the authentic loves of your life.

You are and will remain my weakness, regardless of time or distance

It is often said that mothers forgive everything. While children sometimes choose to follow the wrong path, parents always have an intrinsic need to help them. By offering a helping hand or the warm comforting hug that welcomes them home.

A mother knows that her children will always be her weakness. She has the ability to put herself in their shoes. To feel what her child feels and to suffer more than anyone else when her child is suffering.

A mother’s greatest wish is that her little one be happy whether he is 7, 27 or 37 years old.

This “invisible and elusive umbilical cord” has nothing to do with wanting to control the child, having him close and indulging in some sort of toxic relationship.

A sensible, intelligent and respectful mother does everything in her power to make her child feel free, mature, strong and able to choose his own path and build their own happiness.

We have the power to raise strong children, but our true power is sensitivity

This is undoubtedly a curious but wonderful contradiction. Having a child forces us to put aside our insecurity and take care of our character. This is so that we can be that example of temperance, courage and strength to inspire our children every day.

Nevertheless, it is precisely our ability to be sensitive that allows us to get closer to them in order to provide them with a better education.

• Being sensitive means we can understand our child’s emotions and put ourselves in their shoes.
• Sensitivity means turning our love, respect and affection into our best educational tool.
• To be sensitive means to become a mirror in which our children will see that we are able to understand them, guide them, listen to them without judging them, guide them without imposing anything. We need to educate fairly without raising our voices.

In short, when it comes to teaching and raising children, strength is essential because it makes us more capable. Yet we must never forget that what children need most to grow is the sensitivity of their parents.