Since You Came Into My Life I Sleep Less But Smile More

You did it: ever since you came, you have turned my life upside down and turned my heart 180º towards the most intense and enriching happiness. You have no doubt taken many hours of sleep from me, but you have also given me a future full of imagination. Now I smile more, I don’t just breathe, I live in a world that is more intense, brighter and filled with colors.

We know that many new parents in the parenting world have gone through the same thing. It’s like someone is keeping the little nuances associated with the arrival of your child a secret. Nuances such as the lack of sleep, the fears, breastfeeding, cramps and the baby crying were all described in the fine print that not everyone reads before deciding to have a child.

However, this does not matter. It’s really about knowing that not everything is easy to understand; that there will be both easier and harder days. The main thing is to know how to read the newborn’s needs and most importantly to enjoy it. This is exactly what is explained in the interesting book “The Concept of the Continuum” by Jean Liedloff.

When a baby comes into the world, many parents have their own predetermined schedule for raising a child. However, in parenting there are no schedules. The rules suggested to us by our parents, siblings or friends are not always the right ones for our children. It’s about living day to day, moment to moment, with the baby and following our instincts to respond in the best possible way.

Likewise, it’s important to remember that our child’s first few years are a “continuum,” as explained by Dr. Liedloff. A continuum between the body of the mother and her baby, where all that matters is the physical and emotional closeness, the contact, the skin, the hugs, the looks…

And yes, it can be exhausting, very exhausting, but also incredibly satisfying.

Now I smile more, because I know I’m okay

“Sometimes I smile when I see that face in the mirror that I barely recognize… Is that me? Am I really that woman? Those dark circles under her eyes are mine? How long has it been since I’ve used a hairbrush? Since when do I neglect my appearance?”

This is what you think every time you suddenly see your reflection when you go to the bathroom. Then you take a deep breath and put that loose strand of hair behind your ear. “So what? ” – you say to yourself. “ Who cares what I look like if my baby is okay and if I’m doing well as a mother? Now I smile more.”

A mother who is proud of her baby is oblivious to the deep exhaustion she has built up, but thinks: now I smile more

The birth of a child activates alarm mechanisms in the mother’s brain. In such a way that sometimes she is not even aware of her own physical needs.

• It is a natural mechanism that ensures proper attention and care for the baby. However, we must be careful not to neglect ourselves, for we must be careful not to burn ourselves out.

• When the body and brain accumulate too many consecutive hours of sustained effort, we can sometimes overextend. Because of this, we can experience a level of unconscious stress that can seriously affect our health.
• For this reason, it is crucial to allocate tasks. Fathers can also help raise a child. A father can perform the exact same tasks as a mother, with the exception of breastfeeding, of course.
• Let us fully enjoy the education by dividing not only responsibilities, but also the fatigue. Let the dark circles affect both our eyes. Let’s balance the exhaustion with the equal amount of happiness, the worry with a smile.

So remember, you’re doing a great job with your baby, no doubt about it. But never neglect yourself in the process.

Since I have you by my side, positive emotions are part of my life and I smile more

Being a mother or father changes certain structures of our brain – we know that. This extra dose of oxytocin not only makes us more protective and sensitive to our child’s needs. It also helps us improve aspects that make us a better person, such as empathy, pursuit of success, resilience, dreams, and even the need to cultivate certain values ​​that make this world a better place.

On the other hand, since the birth of your child, you have turned your weaknesses into strengths. The simple act of hugging your child brings a smile. Remember that smiling is not just a reflection of your inner well-being. It is also the light that guides your child.

Smiling is a very important emotional gesture that guides your child to good social behavior, communication and affection towards other beings. Your beautiful smile transmits love and recognition, which helps your child build a strong bond.