How Do You React To People Who Think Physical Punishment Is Necessary
How should you react to people who think it is necessary to hit children? How do you justify disagreeing with physical punishment?
In conversations, ideas are often exchanged about early childhood education and parenting methods.
You need to know how to say that you disagree with parents or relatives who think spanking is the best parenting option.
The truth is that we are always on the wrong track when we choose violence.
A good lesson to teach your children is that aggressive behavior is not fair in any situation.
Self-control and good arguments are most effective for avoiding conflict and finding good solutions to problems. There is no need to mistreat others to prove ourselves.
Stop and think about it for a moment. Are you better when you hit someone? The answer is NO. And you NEVER will be.
Someone who claims otherwise only shows vulnerability and insecurity, so intense that they resort to violence. A primitive and unintelligent tool.
You may have heard parents talk about how “effective” spanking their children is.
As bad as it is, we often compare ourselves with other parents and can imitate and apply their violence in our home. We believe that this will give us more respect and discipline our children.
Here are some key reasons that impress others if you disagree with the use of physical force.
Consequences of using physical punishment during childhood
- Deficits in emotional development. A child who suffers severe physical and emotional punishment has lower self-esteem, poor concentration, difficulty empathizing with others, anxiety and depression.
- Approval of physical violence as a means of interaction. Aggressive behavior is often repeated. Therefore, a physically abused child often uses violence against other people.
- It increases irritability and aggressiveness. Children are not old enough to tell the difference between the unacceptable behavior the parent wants to stop and the violence they use to make it stop. In the short term, this reaction leads to aggression.
- Physical punishment goes against the development of values and norms. When a parent asks a child to behave well and yet they are punished for listening and communicating in a healthy way, it creates an internal conflict in the child.
On the one hand, they are judged for their bad behavior, but the punishment used is even less acceptable.
How to respond to people who find it necessary to hit a child?
- Hitting children is not a good example. If you hit them, they learn to hit. This is especially true if they are very young and don’t know many social rules yet.
- Children quickly adopt the behavior of the people they love and respect. They believe that what you are doing is the right thing. Your child is likely to treat other children the way you treat your child.
- Spanking does not improve bad behavior. Often the child will show the behavior more often when beaten for it. A child who receives negative attention feels sad and expresses this by behaving badly.
- Violent interactions cause anger in children and parents. Although children apparently behave appropriately after hitting, they continue to carry the negative emotions and this turns them into a time bomb, as it were. In a moment of tremendous anger, the parent may use excessive physical force on the child and this will be forever stored in his emotional memory.
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- Physical punishment has a negative effect on the child. A child’s self-image is shaped by how he thinks others think of him. No matter how much you try to let your child know that you love him, hitting him will be very confusing for him. Children feel very weak and helpless when they are beaten and feel as if anyone can mistreat them.
- Physical punishment has a negative effect on the parents. It deteriorates the bond between the parents and their children. It creates a removal because a great emotional barrier and tensions are developed during communication.
