Why Yelling At Kids Isn’t Good Parenting

Yelling at children is not the way to raise a family. In this article we will see why.

It has happened to every parent at one point or another: a child misbehaves and we lose control. Our first instinct is to raise our voices. We scream, yell, or rage.

The fact is, we are humans and we are not perfect. Our emotions can cause us to overreact. Even loving parents can make this mistake.

In some cases, yelling at children can lead to negative consequences for everyone involved.

Constant yelling in and around the house could possibly be caused by the parental upbringing.

If your parents yelled at you, you are more likely to yell at your own children.

Is screaming the way to raise your kids?

The answer is no. There are parents who don’t think twice before yelling at their kids.

Many even do it in public, without considering the consequences for the little one on the receiving end.

Many parents regularly yell at their children when they are in a bad mood or have had a rough day. However, in some families it is an integral part of their upbringing.

We inherit a lot from our own parents, including much of our parenting style.

Bad parenting can leave a lifelong mark. The frustration is passed on from one generation to the next.

Consequences of yelling at children

Child development professionals have found that there is no need to resort to yelling to exercise your authority as a parent.

Educators and psychologists agree that humiliating, insulting, or yelling at children does not lead to good behavior.

Of course, resorting to physical violence is even worse.

Some of the consequences of yelling at children are:

• They get used to it. Sooner or later raising your voice will have no effect at all. Rather than being authoritarian, you will appear harsh.
• Constant yelling can undermine your child’s confidence and make him feel unloved. In fact, a strict, old-fashioned upbringing can be counterproductive. Children who are subjected to yelling become rebellious and rebellious.
• Children will generally imitate their parents. If they see you exhibiting aggressive behavior, it will impact their way of thinking and acting. They may pick up these bad habits when they are older.

• The child will grow up in a stressful environment, which can affect their development in many ways.

Why we should stop yelling at children

• Shouting leads to ignoring. That is, children automatically ignore much of what we’re trying to tell them when we yell.
• Your child will not pay attention to what you have to say, let alone apply it. Children learn through action, not through listening to a diatribe.
• We are role models for our children. Their behavior will change depending on how we treat them. When we lose control and yell at children, we teach them that it’s okay to lash out in anger.
• If we practice self-control, we can help our children stay calm. They will learn how to respond appropriately in a situation that upsets you.

• Yelling at children is not only frightening, it also leads to feelings of powerlessness and anger. Whether intentional or not, this is what parents do when they raise their voices.
• Yelling is not an effective way to raise your children. We know that respect should be mutual. Obedience comes with patience. Learning lessons takes time and effort.
• When parents scream all the time, they lose authority and respect.  Yelling damages attempts to communicate as a family, leading to colder, more distant relationships.

Recommendations

The only logical response is to stop and reflect: Am I yelling at my children? Good parenting requires a change in attitude.

Choose other ways to express yourself. Experience will show which method is most effective.

The healthiest thing to do is to stop yelling at children. When we are angry about something, we have to control our reaction.

Whatever the situation, yelling probably isn’t an appropriate way to respond.

This self-control is not easy to achieve. Controlling emotions such as anger or rage can be a challenge, especially when your children are disobedient.

As parents, we must learn to stop when we hear ourselves screaming. Be aware of your emotions and learn to control yourself when you get angry.

This is something we can achieve with effort. Good parenting means being in control of yourself at all times.