Life With Your Partner After The Baby Is Born

With regard to the wonderful event of aging, there is an era of ‘before the baby’ and ‘after the baby’. Life with your partner after the baby is born is not the same anymore.

Life with your partner changes inevitably and often unexpectedly:

• your routine
• priorities
• Also you dating together drastically changed

For example, you leave your hobbies and many of your usual activities behind for the time being. Without fuss, you indulge in activities and enjoy what you could not have imagined before. The term ‘pleasure’ takes on a new meaning. 

You both stop putting yourself first.  You focus on that new creature that is now part of your family. Life with your partner has changed.

In this article, we will tell you about how life changes with your partner after a baby is born. We are confident that you will identify 100% with this information.

No one says we win or lose because we became mothers. Nor do we claim that every day gets better or worse. But one thing is certain: everything changes and is colored by life itself.

The life of a childless couple

Life as a childless couple was different to say the least. Then you were the absolute master and ruler of your time. You could surrender to spontaneous ideas and do whatever you felt like. Nothing was urgent and you could dedicate yourself completely to yourself and to your partner.

You could:

• go dancing
• to go to the cinema
• go have a cup of coffee
• go on a family visit

You could do all those things alone or with your partner. It didn’t matter. The idea was to enjoy. You had all the time.

You lived relaxed: if you felt like going outside, you did. If you otherwise wanted to stay at home, you could do that too. In fact, everything could be postponed for a while if you wanted to. Whether it was planned or spontaneous, everything was okay if it benefited your partner and you.  You abstained from nothing and spoiled yourself daily.

The life of a couple with children

With the arrival of your first child, you see a change in your life. You can appreciate the way you completely lost control of what your time was. Your first priority now is your child.

If you are a parent, everything depends on your child’s needs. You study the weather forecast before you make plans.  You take his health and mood into account when making decisions, no matter how unimportant they are. Your goal is always to give your child an opportunity to do something they enjoy.

The comfort of any place to be visited should be a central, determining consideration. All places you go should be suitable and safe for your child.

You try to please him with all kinds of games, visits to parks and playgrounds. You devise activities that will help him to develop both cognitively and physically. Your goal  is always to let the light of his beautiful smile shine.

Life with your partner necessarily changes

Coming home is also different. When you used to come home tired from work, you could just take off your shoes and relax on the couch. You could watch a TV series or movie with a hot cup of coffee until you fell asleep.

But now you go to your child’s nursery or school after work. Cake, ice cream or other sweets are the temptations that can completely mess up your tightly planned daily routine. You suppress your fatigue. However, you have a constant desire: to feel the joy of that innocent and pure gift that life has offered you, your child.

Weekends have a different rhythm

Weekends and holidays are no longer the same.  Now you visit parks and squares, run through the fields after your child. You run up and down slopes that your child finds so exciting. You dance to any rhythm wherever you are.

You sing children’s songs, watch children’s movies. You get tired of telling stories and playing games. At children’s parties with clowns, magicians, colors and games you have the greatest fun.

When you have a child, you start living each day with a new perspective. Mother’s Day, Father’s Day and even birthdays take on a different meaning. You will also discover the value of special family days and celebrations.

Every minute is valuable, every second slips through your fingers. A quick bath turns into a real battle. And there you are, in the middle of the parenting ‘fight’, when you were really just asking for silence. Wet from head to toe, with a stomachache from laughing.

You and your partner are no longer the same

Indeed, after the arrival of your child you are no longer the same. You have changed, matured, grown, wiser.

Now you understand the power of the purest and noblest love that moves you, just by seeing your child’s face. You totally get it:  There’s no better way to spend your time. You loved your past life, but oh, how you love this new phase too!

In your current life, you are completely open to this family of three (and probably more in the future). Nothing in this world compares to the happiness you feel today. You choose to be a mother and wife  every day of your life, even though life with your partner has now changed. ..

They say a child changes a couple’s life. It’s true: you and your partner have become a unit, united by this little darling.